Dating Tips For Getting The Best Results with Thai Ladies

Sending Gifts

Sending gifts to the ladies is a great way to make a good impression and stand out from the crowd. However, there is one problem that you should be aware of. Any package received by the lady in Thailand will have taxes payable when she receives it, usually between 17% and 25% of the declared value plus shipping cost. Even if you declare the contents to be of zero value she will have to pay something they call "freight tax". It doesn't matter what the shipper tells you, whether it be the post office or FedEx, there WILL be tax due upon receipt in Thailand.

Example: You send a small package with a declared value of zero and the shipping cost is $40. When the lady receives it she will have to pay about 280 baht. Most average Thai ladies make about 300 baht per day...big problem.

If you are contemplating sending a gift contact us first. We may be able to find what you want in Thailand so you can avoid the tax problem, not to mention the cost of shipping. The item may even be significantly cheaper in Thailand. Of course, if the item is something unique to your area of residence it may not be available in Thailand. But contact us first to find out. Popular gifts that we can arrange to be delivered on your behalf include flowers, chocolates, perfume and cosmetics, even language books and tapes. Our fee for this service is normally much less than the cost of shipping.

Translate It!

A number of clients have complained about slow responses from some of the ladies. After contacting several of the ladies to determine why, we feel we need to re-emphasize that you will get the best and fastest response if you send both English and Thai, at least in your first few letters. Most of our ladies don't work in the tourist areas and therefore do not regularly speak with English-speaking men. They are regular middle class Thai girls and although they have had English language training they don't use it every day and many are not confident in their reading and writing abilities. So they must take a good deal of time to translate and compose a response. Their other option is to pay for translation. Although relatively inexpensive by western standards, translation services are quite expensive for most of the ladies. Don't make them work so hard or make them spend all their hard earned money to read your letter. Get it translated before you send it to them. If you can't do it yourself or don't have a friend to do it, we offer discounted translation services to our clients at 50% off of the standard rate. That is only $0.05 (5 cents) U.S. per word if you are corresponding with one of our ladies.

Fortune Tellers

We have had numerous questions regarding the role of fortune tellers in Thai culture so here is some background on the subject.  Many Thai people seek the advice of fortune tellers, or "maw du" as they are known in Thai, which literally translated means "seeing doctor". Often the fortune tellers are monks famous for their divining skills. This is not a part of Buddhism but a cultural tradition.

There are a variety of fortune telling techniques.  Numerology is highly regarded and is the method normally practiced by the monks who do fortune telling.

Many Thai ladies visit the fortune tellers often and base life changing decisions on the readings they get.  If you are courting a Thai lady you can be almost assured that she will check your numbers before you get very involved.  You can be forewarned because you can also get a reading from a numerologist.  Although they vary in their interpretation skills they all work off of the same basic astrological time tables so you should be able to get a comparable reading if you know your birth date and time as well as her birth date and time.

Whether or not you believe in numerology you will be better prepared if you know what the numbers say.  The following link will take you to a numerologist's web site where you can get a reading if you like.

Professional Numerology Reading

General Tips For Success

Our ladies are all genuinely interested in meeting a western man so your chances of getting a good response are great. Here are some tips for achieving the best results.

1. Send a photo.  Nothing generates more excitement than a couple of good photos.   Send your best high quality closeup of your face as well as a full body shot.   Don't worry if you feel you aren't handsome enough.  With your round eyes and long nose you are as exotic to Thai ladies as they are to you.  Being too handsome can work against you.  They may suspect you are a "butterfly", a playboy.   Be clean, well groomed, and genuine.  They will love you.
2. Use simple English in your letters.  Many Thai ladies have limited English reading and writing skills so don't make it complicated.
3. A small compliment makes a big impression with Thai ladies.  It may seem obvious to you that she is beautiful but make sure your tell her.  She may not be used to hearing it.
4. Age - The Thai ladies you see here are sincere about meeting a western man.  They aren't looking for a young playboy.  They almost always want a man who is quite a bit older, typically 10 or 15 years or more their senior.  So don't be afraid to contact one of the girls who is much younger than you.
5. If the lady provides her telephone number send a letter and photo before you call.  You will likely get a warmer response if your lady has a photo and knows to whom she is speaking.
6. Be patient. Remember that snail mail is VERY slow, one to two weeks in each direction. And even with email, it may take a week or so to get a response because few of the ladies own a computer. They must visit an internet cafe to read email.
7. Be persistent. Thai culture is permeated with the "mai pen rai" attitude, which roughly translated means "no problem".  Things usually happen slowly.
8. Stress your good qualities like your gentle nature and good heartedness.  The quality of "jai dee" or "good heart" is very important to Thai ladies.   Don't focus on material wealth.  Compared to them nearly every western person is wealthy so you don't need to talk about it.  If you are financially secure and able provide a good middle class standard of living then you are quite a catch in the eyes of any Thai lady.
9. Don't make jokes or say anything derogatory about Thailand's royal family or the Buddha.
10. Family is very important in Thai society.  You will be thought of as a good man if family is important to you, especially if in some way you provide for your parents and siblings.
11. Thai ladies can be very jealous.  It is best to avoid even the slightest provocation.  Don't talk about other women, including past girlfriends or wives.
12. Learn more about Thai culture.  A few words of Thai and an appreciation for the culture will go a long way to making her feel comfortable with you.  Besides, Thai culture is truly wonderful; you will love it!